Marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman blessed by God for the purpose of love, and family. The purpose of marriage is not sex, but love and family. Family is important to God. God visited Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden as family to fellowship with them (Genesis 3). 

Family is that fellowship between God, man and his wife. God also visited Abraham and his wife Sarah as a family (Genesis 18). In family He reveals himself perfectly to us. Family is what is important to God when we look at marriage. Love is another virtue of marriage. Jesus is the custodian of love. LOVE according to John 3:16 is God giving his Son, that's sacrifice. God gave the Word to the world. In a family God expect the man to be the custodian of love. The man should be the lover while the woman should submit to him in accordance to the will of God. 

There is no story in the bible where people get married in heaven. Jesus only gave us the parable of the ten virgins to describe his marriage with the church (the bride). Sincerely, no one marries in Heaven. The Sadducee, I call them Sad to see tried Jesus with a question about the resurrection (Matthew 22). However, Jesus replied them that no one marries in Heaven, rather they all would become angels of God. No marriage in heaven as we do on earth.

God Choosing a Wife or Husband For You

As for the point of God choosing a wife or husband for you, God's will should be our desire and purpose on earth. God chooses the person that compliments you spiritually, therefore what God has joined together let no man put asunder. A lot of people marry outside the will of God including some pastors and today their marriages are hell or have crumbled. God knows the heart of everybody. We are blind in that aspect, so we are not capable to know the perfect man or woman for us. Marrying anything is dangerous!

A good wife or husband can come from the will of God, that's Heaven. Several scriptures in the old testaments pointed many a time when the Lord warned the Israelite against marrying certain women and men. Getting married to them would corrupt them and their seed (children). These men are women are from idolatry background, and knew not the way of the Lord. The Moabite women are seductresses whose intention were to defile the men of Israel. If you choose a wife without God's will you might end up with a Jezebel. 

Do You Really Believe That Marriages Are Made in Heaven?

Marriages are ordained by Heaven, but Heaven doesn't make marriages as in conduct weddings. 

Jesus said my sheep knows my voice, the voice of a stranger will they not follow?

So there is the voice of the shepherd, and there is the voice of the stranger. 

There is also the voice of the sheep.

That is the voice of your human spirit. You talking to yourself.

Now 7 Voices That Show You Are Now Hearing Directtly From The Devil

1. A voice telling you, that the reason why you are poor is because you are a member of your current church. All churches have both the rich and the poor in attendance. There are poor members in rich churches, there are also rich members in poor churches, that is the mystery of wealth. Even Jesus said the poor you will have always with you.

2. The reason why you are not married is because you are a member of your current church. All churches have mature single ladies in attendance. We have them more in bigger churches. The more the crowd, the more those groups of people.

3. The reason why you don't have children, is because you are a member of this church. It is a lie from the pit of hell. Most church Founders don't have biological children. Yet some sinners are tired of having children. Childbearing has nothing to do with the church you attend. It is God that gives children.

4. If this church is of God, Pastors will not be resigning like this. The truth is this, any church where Pastors don't resign is not of God. In the days of Jesus, we also have other people using his name to cast out demons. Even the owner of the name could not keep everyone that wants to use the name with him. People were genuinely using his name, yet not with him. Let us not talk about the disciples of John. Who left him and followed Jesus.

A church is not measured by its seating capacity, but also by its sending capacity.

5. The way this church is having financial challenges, God may not be here. Even Jesus was faced with financial challenges. How did Peter find himself in the sea? There was an embarrassing situation. And Jesus said go to the sea. The challenge will always be there, but the caller will always make a way. Until a church can say no member among us lacks anything, they have not come to the full manifestation of wealth. That is the Apostolic parameter and benchmark for judging a wealthy church in the new testament.

6. A voice telling you that, For your Pastor to fall sick, he has missed God. God must have left him. Elisha raised every dead person he prayed for. Even in his grave, he was still raising the dead that came in contact with his bones. Yet he Elisha died of sickness. Timothy had constant stomach pain. Sometimes, the anointing on the anointed is for the people he is sent to, and not for himself.

7. A voice telling you to stay without water and food for 40 days and 40 nights. Only Jesus, Moses, and Elijah have done 40 days and nights without water and food. Most Pastors have done 100 days, but they break it daily. Some have done one year fast, but they break it daily or weekly. No water, No food, cannot be 40 days. 

When we see Jesus, Moses, and Elijah, they will tell us if it was completely dry fast without water and food. Or they were drinking water. I am very sure Jesus drank water because the Bible said he was hungry after the fast, and not he was thirsty. You also know the difference hungry and thirsty. Before Answers Assembly started, I did 40 day fast in Lagos, as the Resident Pastor of Winners chapel Ogijo in ikorodu. But I was breaking it with hot Amala with assorted meat and ewedu with stew, every 10 pm daily.

As I am writing now, I have not eaten today, but my Edo black soup with Assorted meat and Plaintain flour is ready for me.

Let us not argue, please go and do 40 days without water and food. When you are through we can talk. But before you start, please google how long can a human being stay without water and food. Something will still tell you to forget google, and follow God's voice. God knows you can't do it, he won't tell you to do it.

Be blessed.

Irabor wisdom

Presiding Bishop

Answers Assembly Warri Delta State.